The Culture of No Show, Last-Minute Cancellation and Flimsy Excuses

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One night after coming home from work, Dave noticed how quiet and serious my face I was. I assured him it wasn’t anything he did; I didn’t exactly have a bad day but I expressed my utter disappointment on a very bad habit that is seemingly prevalent in our highly-connected digital world:
NO SHOW.

CANCELLATION.

BAILING OUT ON THE LAST MINUTE.

FLIMSY EXCUSES.

Though I haven’t been around long enough like the Baby Boomers and Gen-Xers (I belong to Generation Y), some of the good virtues these generations have modeled are

1) being committed to your word and

2) showing up at the agreed time and place, with no need of excessive follow-up and confirmation.
Back then, when snail mail, landline phones and pagers were the main venues for personal communication, when an appointment was set and both parties agreed, expect both to show up at the venue. There was no need for excessive reminders and follow-up calls.

Nowadays, despite a barrage of
“Just confirming our meeting…”
“May I remind you…”
“So, I’ll see you on that day.”
“See you on _____ at this time.”

These are some of the responses you would get:
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1. “Sh*********! I forgot, sorry. Pwede bang re-sked?”
There are so many ways to plot and plan one’s schedule. As the famous line goes, “There’s an app for that.”
Before committing to a meeting or a task, is it not common sense to check one’s schedule to see if it’s an open date and time? Also, if you are prone to forgetting, IT IS A MUST TO WRITE THINGS DOWN and SET REMINDERS.

Please consider that the person you committed to has made time and expects something from you. It is so much more embarrassing if the person is able to make it to the appointment (considering travel time and his/her other schedules) and you don’t show up. I made this mistake many, many years ago and the embarrassment towards the other person was something that plagued me for days. I was disappointed with myself because 1) I forgot 2) I said yes to her and said yes to another meeting without checking that their times overlapped. I’ve learned my lesson then. It isn’t a sin to say “I’m not available on that date/time, how about this day?” You just have to make it clear that you would like to meet and you are setting aside time because you value them.

59885282_2232906966744369_5721315640358471412_n2. The “no response at all” bail out
Do you want to meet or no? It’s best to make it clear if you are not interested or there really isn’t space in your schedule for the other party. Saying YES to an invite however and then ghosting on the person who invited you does not make you look important. Yes, you may be busy, something more important came up or there’s an emergency. The key is to communicate these at the soonest possible time so that the other person is not left waiting on you.

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3. *EXCUSE #1 EXCUSE #2 EXCUSE #3* Pwede bang re-sked? Pwede bang bukas na lang?
Be honest. You know an excuse vs. a legitimate reason.
You know when you didn’t do what you were supposed to do, hence the delay.
You know when you’re making up an emergency that doesn’t really exist.
You know when you’re blaming your fault on somebody when it was supposed to be your job all along.

Honesty and time stewardship are very important. If you have deliverables, do what you can to give them at the appointed time. If it does become challenging, then it boils down again to communicating where you’re at so you can manage the other person’s expectations. “I’m having trouble at this stage of the process. Trying to get results but we’re in a stump. I regret to inform you but there might be a 1-2 day delay. I’m sorry but we are trying our best.”

Being honest instead of giving flimsy excuses, gives assurance to the other party that you are committed to follow through your deliverables despite some challenges you encounter.

Have you ever been stood up or cancelled on by someone? What did you feel? How did you respond? Sound off on the comments below, I would love to know your thoughts.
Thanks and have a great day!

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Your Procrastination Affects Others Too

BUKAS NA LANG.

Your procrastination does not only affect you, it affects others too.

If you can take the fact that it takes a blow on your performance, you also should be mindful that when you don’t do your job, you delay the timeline and other processes can’t commence because there’s a bottleneck in your department.

Fix your schedule. We all have 24 hours in a day. The difference is how we prioritize and use our time.

Don’t make flimsy excuses. If you are committed to seeing your work through, you will find solutions. Hindi yung roadblock 1 “Ok, I give up! Boss ayaw mag-send ng email ko. So therefore, hindi ko magagawa ang trabaho ko today.” Seriously? Kayang kaya mag-update ng Facebook, kayang-kaya mag-level up sa Mobile Legends pero di magawan ng paraan ang email.

“Umulan kasi kaya hindi ko na-send yung email.”

“Hindi ako makapag-email kasi wala ako sa office.”

“Nakalimutan ko.”

“Kasalanan kasi ng team mate ko to eh.”

Resorting to flimsy excuses only emphasizes that you did not exhaust all means to get the task done. In other words, you are not resourceful.

Be accountable. So you made a mistake? Be humble enough to apologize to the people and teams involved. Be accountable if nagkamali ka talaga or may delay dahil hindi mo nagawa ang trabaho mo, swallow your pride and say sorry. Sweeping it under the rug or being all defensive will only add to people’s dislike and disappointment of you. If they know you recognize & admit your mistake, then things can move forward a little better. Just make sure that you will do your job better & won’t repeat the cycle of procrastination all over again.

INGRID NIETO Cooks: Meatless Menudo

Welcome to another healthy, meat-free cooking session! We tried out Astig Vegan’s version of Filipino Vegan Menudo but we didn’t have all the ingredients listed on her website so we just worked with what was available at home.

Ingredients:

-Tofu (diced and fried)

-Garbanzos/Chickpeas

-Garlic (3-4 big cloves, minced)

-Onion (medium, chopped)

-Tomato (3-4 pieces, chopped)

-1 small packet of tomato paste

-1/2 cup soy sauce

It wasn’t bad for a first try and I’m glad it DID taste like menudo. Of course, I know we can make it taste richer and better when we cook this again. Let me know if you try this at home. Thanks Astig Vegan for the recipe & inspiration!

Ingrid Cooks: Tofu and Eggplant Steak

Hey everyone! A lot of you have been asking about the #meatless & #plantbased recipes my husband & I prepare at home, so here’s another cooking video. I got this recipe from one of the vegan groups I follow on Facebook and gave it a try. Here are the ingredients: -Half a block of tofu -2 eggplants -Garlic and onion -Toyo (soy sauce) -Kalamansi Please let me know if you get to try this for yourself! I love that the ingredients can be found in the market or grocery store and that it’s so easy to cook.

BUILDING A PRACTICAL WARDROBE

Having a practical wardrobe doesn’t mean that you compromise your style. While it may seem like a tough thing to do at first, you will realize that dressing will become easy and you won’t have to spend excess money on things that are not right for your body and lifestyle. When I started working and earning my own keep, I was often tempted to splurge on clothes and shoes because I somewhat felt empowered that I was making my own money and I could decide where to spend it. Of course, that didn’t last for long. I made purchasing mistakes, learned to manage my money better and here I am after a decade from then, talking about these lessons so you don’t commit the same mistakes I made.

I don’t talk about #KonMari in the video, although I admire Marie Kondo’s method of decluttering and letting go of things that no longer spark joy in a person’s life. Still, there may be things in your closet that may appear to spark joy in you but is no longer functional for your current lifestyle and season. Check out the 5 Steps I talk about in the video and tell me how it goes for you in the comment section below.