The Culture of No Show, Last-Minute Cancellation and Flimsy Excuses

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One night after coming home from work, Dave noticed how quiet and serious my face I was. I assured him it wasn’t anything he did; I didn’t exactly have a bad day but I expressed my utter disappointment on a very bad habit that is seemingly prevalent in our highly-connected digital world:
NO SHOW.

CANCELLATION.

BAILING OUT ON THE LAST MINUTE.

FLIMSY EXCUSES.

Though I haven’t been around long enough like the Baby Boomers and Gen-Xers (I belong to Generation Y), some of the good virtues these generations have modeled are

1) being committed to your word and

2) showing up at the agreed time and place, with no need of excessive follow-up and confirmation.
Back then, when snail mail, landline phones and pagers were the main venues for personal communication, when an appointment was set and both parties agreed, expect both to show up at the venue. There was no need for excessive reminders and follow-up calls.

Nowadays, despite a barrage of
“Just confirming our meeting…”
“May I remind you…”
“So, I’ll see you on that day.”
“See you on _____ at this time.”

These are some of the responses you would get:
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1. “Sh*********! I forgot, sorry. Pwede bang re-sked?”
There are so many ways to plot and plan one’s schedule. As the famous line goes, “There’s an app for that.”
Before committing to a meeting or a task, is it not common sense to check one’s schedule to see if it’s an open date and time? Also, if you are prone to forgetting, IT IS A MUST TO WRITE THINGS DOWN and SET REMINDERS.

Please consider that the person you committed to has made time and expects something from you. It is so much more embarrassing if the person is able to make it to the appointment (considering travel time and his/her other schedules) and you don’t show up. I made this mistake many, many years ago and the embarrassment towards the other person was something that plagued me for days. I was disappointed with myself because 1) I forgot 2) I said yes to her and said yes to another meeting without checking that their times overlapped. I’ve learned my lesson then. It isn’t a sin to say “I’m not available on that date/time, how about this day?” You just have to make it clear that you would like to meet and you are setting aside time because you value them.

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Do you want to meet or no? It’s best to make it clear if you are not interested or there really isn’t space in your schedule for the other party. Saying YES to an invite however and then ghosting on the person who invited you does not make you look important. Yes, you may be busy, something more important came up or there’s an emergency. The key is to communicate these at the soonest possible time so that the other person is not left waiting on you.

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3. *EXCUSE #1 EXCUSE #2 EXCUSE #3* Pwede bang re-sked? Pwede bang bukas na lang?
Be honest. You know an excuse vs. a legitimate reason.
You know when you didn’t do what you were supposed to do, hence the delay.
You know when you’re making up an emergency that doesn’t really exist.
You know when you’re blaming your fault on somebody when it was supposed to be your job all along.

Honesty and time stewardship are very important. If you have deliverables, do what you can to give them at the appointed time. If it does become challenging, then it boils down again to communicating where you’re at so you can manage the other person’s expectations. “I’m having trouble at this stage of the process. Trying to get results but we’re in a stump. I regret to inform you but there might be a 1-2 day delay. I’m sorry but we are trying our best.”

Being honest instead of giving flimsy excuses, gives assurance to the other party that you are committed to follow through your deliverables despite some challenges you encounter.

Have you ever been stood up or cancelled on by someone? What did you feel? How did you respond? Sound off on the comments below, I would love to know your thoughts.
Thanks and have a great day!

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Checking out iACADEMY’s Nexus Campus! | INGRID NIETO Vlogs

Kids these days are fortunate because their are institutions like iACADEMY that offer programs with focused tracks in animation, graphic illustration, robotics, audio production and even app development. I went on a tour of the campus recently and was impressed that those who are about to enter senior high can already begin their education and training in media, graphic arts and information technology. iACADEMY makes sure that they have active industry practitioners as part of their teaching staff so the training isn’t just in theory but more the practical side.

If you are a budding artist, audio producer, multimedia artist, animator, app/game developer or IT specialist, you might want to check out iACADEMY’s programs and see how they can help you become a future game-changer.

Checking out the NU Skin Expo

Dave and I checked out the NU SKIN Expo held at the NU Skin Philippines HQ. We got to try out the Galvanic Spa (which helps combat aging!), their Epoch Essential Oils, their Trimshake and their body analysis machine which revealed that my body age is 5 years younger than my real age!

The S3 Biophotonic Scanner also revealed my skin carotenoid score which is an indicator of the tissue carotenoid concentration and antioxidant levels of my body. If you get a 10,000-19,000 score, that means 1) You don’t consume enough vegetables, fruits and supplements 2) You’re under a lot of stress; high sun and pollution exposure and 3) You smoke or are always exposed to someone who smokes.

If you get a 30,000-39,000 score, you 1) Get a moderate amount of fruits and vegetables 2) Have regular supplementation 3) Moderate stress, sun, and pollution exposure.

40,000-50,000 means you consume huge amounts of fruits and vegetables, have optimal supplementation, low stress, sun and pollution exposure. I was surprised that I got 60,000! 😀 All that vegan food is doing me good! Watch the different stations we visited in the vlog below

AICI LIFESTYLE WORKSHOP SERIES EVENT COVERAGE

The recent Lifestyle Workshop Series hosted by the AICI Philippine Chapter brought together women from different career tracks all bound by the goal to improve themselves through additional learning. The workshop entitled “The Joy of Beauty” featured image consultants Abbygale Arenas-de Leon, Rita Dizon-Dayrit and Patricia Pronstroller-Tolentino.

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AICI Philippine Chapter President Minette Sison

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Delby Bragais (Founding President of the AICI Phil. Chapter) gives a short talk on the benefits of being an AICI member

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The speakers with the new members of the AICI Philippine Chapter

Below is the video coverage of the event:

Insights and Notes from the 16th Leaders and Achievers Summit

img_4472-001I always look forward to opportunities to improve myself through learning. For the past few years, I’ve been taking online classes offered by universities and have benefitted a lot from the excellently-planned educational material that I can access from the comfort of my own home. I like that I am able to listen to professors’ lectures from across the globe, submit my assignment on a weekly basis, participate in lesson discussions with classmates from different nationalities and of course, test my lesson retention through weekly quizzes.

Books are definitely good learning and reference material, allowing readers to be somehow mentored by the writers as they share their life, passion and research. The most exciting for me it seems, are seminars and conferences. Being a public speaker myself, it is a joy for me to listen to seasoned professionals and subject-matter experts who bring their varied education, background and experiences. The fact that I can actually interact and network with them in the flesh is a bonus. I especially like it when they open the floor for questions for it allows attendees to clarify insights and seek the speakers’ viewpoints.

I recently attended the 16th Leaders and Achievers Summit organized by Salt and Light Ventures. They brought together six world-class speakers who shared their experience and insights on Creating Leadership Value and strengthening one’s personal and leadership brand.

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Gerry Plana, the CEO of Investors in People UK (Philippines) started the day with “Leadership Branding Defined.” In his talk, he outlined:
-the value of the brand and how leadership benefits from a brand
-understanding the two main strains which produced a multitude of leadership brands today
-developing one’s personal leadership brand
-developing an organization’s leadership brand

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