In my six years of working in Mellow947, I’ve had amazing encounters with different guests–celebrities, bands, singers, career people, magazine editors, experts and even CEOs of companies. I always look forward to interviews with them because I learn a lot and get to know them as regular people.
|Anne Curtis! Dyosa!|
|Me with Topaz Mommy: Frances Sales of OK! Magazine|
|Screenshot from the Mean Girls movie|
Of course, there are encounters with the not so pleasant guests. Those who walk into the radio booth oozing with cattiness and the “I’m better than you” aura. Back then, whenever bands/celebrities like these would come into my show, I don’t bother getting to know them on a personal level. It’s just the information they have, their music and whatever they’re promoting. End of story. In my head, I didn’t even think of creating a relationship with them because their mere aura put me off.
Fast forward to a few years, the Lord made sure that He worked on rebellious behavior that had to be done away with. Through His Word, prayer and the guidance of Christian counselor-friends, my outlook and attitudes were being transformed and that included dealing with unpleasant and rude people. When we are confronted with offensive behavior, we either shy away or confront depending on our personality style. Being on the defensive is a recourse for me, but not all the time. There were encounters wherein I’d let the other party go yakkity-yak-yak while I kept quiet and gave them an “I’m so bored” stare.
Take for instance, this has-been singer who was just launching her career when she traipsed into the station with her management team. I don’t know if it’s the people around her that puffed up her ego or she really is that type of person. So we let her promote, talk about her album and she answers us matter-of-factly, with her eyebrows raised. I remember assessing if we asked her offensive questions, but so far we stuck to the guide. The impression I got was that she was acting all “mean girl from Cali-forn-i-a”. Funny how she tried getting a job at the station 2 years after.
Thing is, she WAS a local singer and her behavior was a huge contrast to how international singer Lenka behaved when she swung by the station. Lenka was warm and very genuine (even if I made the unforgettable starstruck booboo: “Hi! Uhm, you’re LEN-KA… RIGHT?) If there was anyone I’d expect diva attitude from, it would be her but she totally debunked that! Lenka oozed with humility and even if there were a lot of us who wanted to take pictures with her, she gamely smiled and posed!
Another international singer I enjoyed talking to was Allison Iraheta of American Idol. She’s loud, fun and witty but never in the 10-minutes or less interview did she show signs or irritability or cattiness! Her energy was infectious, even listeners were raving that they loved her.
Recently, an encounter with an editor again left me shaking my head inwardly as she sashayed into the station with a VERY AGGRESSIVE-NEGATIVE VIBE. Her body language seemed to say “Geez. Can we just get this over and done with?”I greeted her with the usual pleasantness yet she gave me the head-to-toe with matching irap *SNAP! SNAP!* (Oh no ya di’int!). The initial human reaction would be maasar ka or tatarayan mo din but at that moment, I really felt the Holy Spirit restrain me! Hindi ko na pinatulan and still gave her the airtime she needed even if she behaved that way. Thankfully the other editors I’ve had on my show have all been very nice and masarap ka-chika! Ito lang talaga ang stand out sa katarayan. 🙂 Well I’m not the only one who experienced it, so I guess cattiness is already in her system.
Writing about these experiences got me thinking: Don’t obnoxious and catty people have a concept of God who can just take everything away from them so they know what really matters? They live in a world where their lives are anchored on fame, popularity and money. What happens when all of these fade? Then they also lose their sense of self because it is anchored on the wrong things. Matthew 6:19-21 says “19 Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth,<sup class="crossreference" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(B)”>where moths and vermin destroy,<sup class="crossreference" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(C)”> and where thieves break in and steal. 20 But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven,<sup class="crossreference" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(D)”> where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal.<sup class="crossreference" style="font-weight: bold; vertical-align: top;" value="(E)”>21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”
It’s never too late to have a change of heart. If the Lord has used this to convict you of being obnoxious or catty, would you humbly come before Him and ask for forgiveness? Sincerely repent and ask for strength that this un-Christlike attitude might be done away with.
When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.
The pride of your heart has deceived you, you who live in the clefts of the rocks and make your home on the heights, you who say to yourself, ‘Who can bring me down to the ground?’