A Forwarded Message worth reading: "Through a rapist’s eyes"

> THOUGHT THIS WAS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG…
>
> FYI – Through a rapist’s eyes! A group of rapists and
> date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look
> for in a potential victim and here are some interesting
> facts:
>
> 1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is
> hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a
> ponytail bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be
> grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long
> hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
>
> 2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will
> look for women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly.
> Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.
>
> 3) They also look for women using their cell phone,
> searching through their purse or doing other activities
> while walking, because they are off guard and can be easily
> overpowered.
>
> 4) The number one place women are abducted from / attacked
> at is grocery store parking lots.
>
> 5) Number two is the office parking lots/garages.
>
> 6) Number three is public restrooms.
>
> 7) The thing about these men is that they are looking to
> grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location,
> where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.
>
> 8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get
> discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them
> to realize that going after you isn’t worth it, because
> it will be time-consuming!
>
> 9) These men said they would not pick on women who have
> umbrellas or other similar objects that can be used from a
> distance in their hands.
>
> 10) Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really
> close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So the idea
> is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.
>
> POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:=20
>
> 1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a
> garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them
> in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it,
> or make general small talk like: Can’t believe it is so
> cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that
> you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a
> line- up, you lose appeal as a target.
>
> 2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in
> front of you and yell, “Stop or Stay back!” Most
> of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a
> woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be
> afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY
> target.
>
> 3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge
> advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,),
> yelling “I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY” and holding it out
> will be a deterrent.
>
> 4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with
> strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are
> grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker
> either under the arm between the elbow and armpit, or in
> the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy
> taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who
> was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke
> through the skin and tore out muscle strands that the guy
> needed stitches! Try pinching yourself in those places as
> hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.
>
> 5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know
> from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap
> a guy’s private parts it is extremely painful. You might
> think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to
> hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
> instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him
> a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of
> there.
>
> 6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first
> two fingers and bend them back as far as possible, with as
> much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The
> instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I
> ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
>
> 7] Of course, the things we always hear still apply. Always
> be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you
> can, and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it,
> go with your instincts. You may feel a little silly at the
> time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy was
> really trouble.
>
> FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….
>
> I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but
> there will be some, where you will go, “Hmm I must
> remember that.” After reading, forward it to someone
> you care about, it never hurts to be careful in this crazy
> world we live in.
>
> 1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point
> on your body. If you are close enough to use it, USE it.
>
> 2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a
> robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO
> HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more
> interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he
> will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER
> DIRECTION!
>
> 3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out
> the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and
> start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but
> everybody else will. This has saved lives.
>
> 4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after
> shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit inside
> (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.). DON’T
> DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the
> perfect opportunity for him to get in on your
> passenger’s side, put a gun to your head, and tell you
> where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.
>
> 5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking
> lot, or parking garage: a. Be aware: look around your car
> as someone may be hiding at the passenger side, peek into
> your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back
> seat. (DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB)!
>
> b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car
> from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their
> victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are
> attempting to get into their cars.
>
> c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your
> vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone
> in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into
> the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you
> back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And
> better paranoid than dead!)
>
> 6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs.
> (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect
> crime spot).
>
> 7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his
> control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a
> running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most
> likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!
>
> 8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP
> IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial
> killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS
> played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked
> with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for
> help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is
> when he abducted his next victim.
>
> I’d like you to forward this to all the women you know.
> It may save a life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting
> another candle. I was going to send this to the ladies
> only, but guys, if you love your mothers, wives, sisters,
> daughters, etc., you may want to pass it onto them, as
> well.
>
> Send this to any woman you know that may need to be
> reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in
> it and it’s better safe than sorry.

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